Overcome Loneliness

Coping with Loneliness: Finding Connection in Everyday Life

Loneliness is something many of us feel but rarely talk about. It isn’t just about being alone, it’s about whether we feel truly connected to others in a meaningful way. You can be surrounded by people and still feel isolated, while others who live quietly may feel perfectly content. In Australia, around 1 in 4 people experience ongoing loneliness, and it’s increasingly recognised as a serious health issue, with impacts as harmful as smoking or obesity.

The good news is that there are proven ways to ease loneliness and build stronger connections. Research shows that even small steps can make a big difference. For example, spending time in nature as little as two hours a week can reduce feelings of isolation and improve overall wellbeing. Reaching out to a friend, neighbour or family member for a genuine conversation is also more powerful than we often realise. It’s the quality, not the number, of our interactions that matters most.

Experts highlight the value of volunteering and group activities, which provide both purpose and connection. Whether it’s joining a local community project, helping out online, or trying out new hobbies, being part of something bigger than yourself can foster belonging. For some, simply caring for a pet provides companionship, routine and joy.

Most importantly, loneliness isn’t a weakness, it’s a human signal reminding us to seek out connection, compassion and meaning. By taking small, intentional steps whether through nature, creativity, mindfulness, or reaching out, we can move from isolation towards greater wellbeing and a stronger sense of belonging.


Small Steps You Can Try Today

✅ Call or message a friend, neighbour or colleague you haven’t spoken to in a while, checkin on them.
✅ Spend 20 minutes outdoors—walk, sit in the sun, or enjoy your local park.
✅ Explore a new hobby or creative outlet, no matter how big or small.
✅ Join a local group, club or class that sparks your interest, your local library usually offers groups.
✅ Look into volunteering opportunities in your community or even online.
✅ Practice mindfulness, journalling or self compassion exercises to ease negative self talk.
✅ If feelings of loneliness persist, consider reaching out to a mental health professional or support service like Beyound Blue.

Change that Lasts.

5 Steps to Creating Deep, Lasting Change

  1. Become the Observer of Your Inner World. 

Most people live on autopilot, reacting to life through our deeply embedded habits, our unconscious emotional patterns, and belief systems inherited from our childhood or culture. The first step to change is to become consciously aware of these patterns without judgment.

This means noticing:

  • The thoughts that loop repeatedly in your mind.
  • The emotional states you default to-like worry, frustration, or self-doubt.
  • The behaviours you engage in even when they don’t align with your deeper desires.

Observation creates a pause between stimulus and response. In that pause lies our power to choose differently. Journaling, mindfulness, or simply checking in with yourself throughout the day can begin to uncover what’s driving us beneath the surface.

Awareness doesn’t change things instantly-but it gives you the power to stop being a slave to your past conditioning.

  1. Design a Clear Internal Blueprint.

The brain and body don’t differentiate between real and vividly imagined experiences. When we envision a goal or desired future state with clarity and emotion, we begin to train your system to live in that future before it physically arrives.

To design this blueprint:

  • Visualize daily, imagine yourself living your desired life.
  • Engage all your senses, see it, feel it, hear it.
  • Anchor it in emotion, how would this version of you feel?

Doing this sends new signals through our nervous system, shifting our hormonal and energetic state, and begins altering the way our genes express themselves (a principle from epigenetics). Over time, this changes our baseline state from survival and repetition to creativity and expansion.

Your imagined future becomes the template your body and mind start to follow.

  1. Rewire the Subconscious Patterns.

Up to 95% of your daily behaviour is governed by subconscious programming, habits formed from repetition, emotional experiences, and environmental cues. We might consciously want change, but if our subconscious is still running outdated scripts, we’ll sabotage progress.

To shift this:

  • Use repetition with intention, affirmations, mantras, or focused thought while in a relaxed state (e.g., right after waking or before sleep).
  • Engage in meditation or guided practices that bring subconscious material to light.
  • Rehearse new emotions-gratitude, joy, confidence, so they become familiar.

The subconscious mind learns through feeling and repetition, not logic. This is why deep change often requires consistent inner work, not just mental insight.

Reprogramming the subconscious is like updating the software of your life-it takes patience, but transforms everything.

  1. Act as the Future You right Now.

The fastest way to embody change is to stop waiting for external conditions to give us permission. Begin acting, speaking, moving, and choosing from the identity we’re becoming-not the one we want to leave behind.

Ask yourself:

  • What would the future version of me do in this moment?
  • What would they say yes to, or no to?
  • How would they handle challenge, opportunity, or rest?

This isn’t about faking it, it’s about training your nervous system to normalize new experiences. When your thoughts, emotions, and actions align, you create coherence and coherence builds momentum.

Identity isn’t found. It’s built through consistent, aligned behaviour.

  1. Stay Consistent in a Supportive Environment.

Change is not a one-time decision it’s a process that thrives in consistency and community. Our environment plays a powerful role in either reinforcing the old you or nurturing the new one.

Support your transformation by:

  • Creating daily rituals that nourish your new self (morning routine, breathwork, journaling, nature time).
  • Surrounding yourself with people, media, and spaces that reflect your values and vision.
  • Removing or reducing triggers that pull you back into old patterns.

Our biology is adaptive it’s always listening. When we surround it with elevated emotional states like joy, gratitude, and purpose, and back them with repetition, we literally recondition our cells, brain, and energetic field. Sustained change is a lifestyle, not a quick fix. The more you live it, the more natural it becomes.

7 Benefits of mindfulness & meditation.

 

Health Benefits of Deep Relaxation, Meditation & Mindfulness.

The next time you tune out or switch off and allow yourself to relax, remind yourself of all the good work the relaxation effect is doing on your body. These are just some of the scientifically proven benefits …

1. INCREASED IMMUNITY

Relaxation appears to boost immunity in recovering cancer patients. A study at the Ohio State University found that progressive muscular relaxation, when practised daily, reduced the risk of breast cancer recurrence. In another study at Ohio State, a month of relaxation exercises boosted natural killer cells in the elderly, giving them a greater resistance to tumours and to viruses.

2. EMOTIONAL BALANCE

Emotional balance, means to be free of all the neurotic behavior that results from the existence of a tortured and traumatized ego. This is very hard to achieve fully, but meditation certainly is the way to cure such neurosis and unhealthy emotional states. As one’s consciousness is cleansed of emotionally soaked memories, not only does great freedom abound, but also great balance. As one’s responses then are not colored by the burdens one carries, but are instead true, direct and appropriate.

3. INCREASED FERTILITY

A study at the University of Western Australia found that women are more likely to conceive during periods when they are relaxed rather than stressed. A study at Trakya University, in Turkey, also found that stress reduces sperm count and motility, suggesting relaxation may also boost male fertility.

4. RELIEVES IRRITABLE BOWEL SYNDROME

When patients suffering from irritable bowel syndrome began practising a relaxation meditation twice daily, their symptoms of bloating, diarrhoea and constipation improved significantly. The meditation was so effective the researchers at the State University of New York recommended it as an effective treatment.

5. LOWERS BLOOD PRESSURE

A study at Harvard Medical School found that meditation lowered blood pressure by making the body less responsive to stress hormones, in a similar way to blood pressure-lowering medication. Meanwhile a British Medical Journal report found that patients trained how to relax had significantly lower blood pressure.

6. ANTI-INFLAMATORY

Stress leads to inflammation, a state linked to heart disease, arthritis, asthma and skin conditions such as psoriasis, say researchers at Emory University in the US. Relaxation can help prevent and treat such symptoms by switching off the stress response. In this way, one study at McGill University in Canada found that meditation clinically improved the symptoms of psoriasis.

7. CALMNESS

The simple difference between those who meditate and those who do not, is that for a meditative mind the thought occurs but is witnessed, while for an ordinary mind, the thought occurs and is the boss. So in both minds, an upsetting thought can occur, but for those who meditate it is just another thought, which is seen as such and is allowed to blossom and die, while in the ordinary mind the thought instigates a storm which rages on and on.

 

Meditation, Mindfulness & Self-Awareness

‘Regular relaxation or meditation of any kind improves health, stress release, efficiency, intuition, creativity, longevity & performance.’– Craig Townsend

You can benefit in many areas of your life through mindfulness & meditation. It relaxes & calms the nervous system, by reducing stress, anxiety, high blood pressure & depression. Meditation assists in decision making –  it enhances positive thought patterns, it boosts the body’s immune and energy system.

 ‘When you become aware of silence, immediately there is a state of inner alertness. You are present, you have stepped out of years of collective human conditioning.’ – Eckhart Tolle

Regular meditation & mindfulness promotes inner balance and harmony in one’s life. It’s one of the simplest and quickest solution to reducing stress in your life. Regular daily practice will bring profound changes. Meditation brings about a greater sense of self-awareness, understanding and peace.

Leiza offers private one to one and small group sessions on the process of developing mindfulness and meditation.

‘Silence is the great teacher, and to learn its lessons you must pay attention to it. There is no substitute for creative inspiration, knowledge, and stability that comes from knowing how to contact your core of inner silence.’– Dr. Deepak Chopra

By Anastasia Stephens – SMH

It’s a piece of advice yogis have given for thousands of years: take a deep breath and relax. Watch the tension melt from your muscles and all your niggling worries vanish. Somehow we all know that relaxation is good for us.

Now the hard science has caught up: a comprehensive scientific study showing that deep relaxation changes our bodies on a genetic level has just been published. What researchers at Harvard Medical School discovered is that, in long-term practitioners of relaxation methods such as yoga and meditation, far more ”disease-fighting genes” were active, compared to those who practised no form of relaxation.

In particular, they found genes that protect from disorders such as pain, infertility, high blood pressure and even rheumatoid arthritis were switched on. The changes, say the researchers, were induced by what they call ”the relaxation effect”, a phenomenon that could be just as powerful as any medical drug but without the side effects. ”We found a range of disease-fighting genes were active in the relaxation practitioners that were not active in the control group,” Dr Herbert Benson, associate professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School, who led the research, says. The good news for the control group with the less-healthy genes is that the research didn’t stop there.

The experiment, which showed just how responsive genes are to behaviour, mood and environment, revealed that genes can switch on, just as easily as they switch off. ”Harvard researchers asked the control group to start practising relaxation methods every day,” says Jake Toby, hypnotherapist at London’s BodyMind Medicine Centre, who teaches clients how to induce the relaxation effect. ”After two months, their bodies began to change: the genes that help fight inflammation, kill diseased cells and protect the body from cancer all began to switch on.”

More encouraging still, the benefits of the relaxation effect were found to increase with regular practice: the more people practised relaxation methods such as meditation or deep breathing, the greater their chances of remaining free of arthritis and joint pain with stronger immunity, healthier hormone levels and lower blood pressure. Benson believes the research is pivotal because it shows how a person’s state of mind affects the body on a physical and genetic level. It might also explain why relaxation induced by meditation or repetitive mantras is considered to be a powerful remedy in traditions such as Ayurveda in India or Tibetan medicine.

But just how can relaxation have such wide-ranging and powerful effects? Research has described the negative effects of stress on the body. Linked to the release of the stress-hormones adrenalin and cortisol, stress raises the heart rate and blood pressure, weakens immunity and lowers fertility. By contrast, the state of relaxation is linked to higher levels of feel-good chemicals such as serotonin and to the growth hormone which repairs cells and tissue. Indeed, studies show that relaxation has virtually the opposite effect, lowering heart rate, boosting immunity and enabling the body to thrive.

”On a biological level, stress is linked to fight-flight and danger,” Dr Jane Flemming, a London GP, says. ”In survival mode, heart rate rises and blood pressure shoots up. Meanwhile, muscles, preparing for danger, contract and tighten. And non-essential functions such as immunity and digestion go by the wayside.” Relaxation, on the other hand, is a state of rest, enjoyment and physical renewal. Free of danger, muscles can relax and food can be digested. The heart can slow and blood circulation flows freely to the body’s tissues, feeding it with nutrients and oxygen. This restful state is good for fertility, as the body is able to conserve the resources it needs to generate new life.

While relaxation techniques can be very different, their biological effects are essentially similar. ”When you relax, the parasympathetic nervous system switches on. That is linked to better digestion, memory and immunity, among other things,” Toby says. ”As long as you relax deeply, you’ll reap the rewards.” But, he warns, deep relaxation isn’t the sort of switching off you do relaxing with a cup of tea or lounging on the sofa.

”What you’re looking for is a state of deep relaxation where tension is released from the body on a physical level and your mind completely switches off,” he says. ”The effect won’t be achieved by lounging round in an everyday way, nor can you force yourself to relax. You can only really achieve it by learning a specific technique such as self-hypnosis, guided imagery or meditation.”

The relaxation effect, however, may not be as pronounced on everyone. ”Some people are more susceptible to relaxation methods than others,” says Joan Borysenko, director of a relaxation program for outpatients at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Centre in Boston. ”Through relaxation, we find some people experience a little improvement, others a lot. And there are a few whose lives turn around totally.”